Heather Arundel

The Diva of Darkness

Salton Sea Sunset Photo by Ron Niebrugge

Salton Sea Sunset Photo by Ron Niebrugge
The Beauty of Hell...

Article 1 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights - also known as my personal life motto!

All Human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.

Who I am...

I am a wife. I am a mother. I am a survivor.
My family has made me who I am...my past family with past hurts...my current family with current joy.
Family is something you are born into and cannot choose,
family is also what you choose it to be once you are old enough to start anew...


Friday, September 30, 2011

Another Year Older - It's My Birthday!

Today is the day that I stopped being a part of my mother's body - a parasite, in her eyes, for those 9 long months - and broke out to go it alone...on my own terms.  Yes, it is the DAY OF MY BIRTH! (And I do feel like I've been going it alone since birth! More on that in another post...)

I am married to a beautiful man (imagine Jamie Fraser from Diana Gabaldon's Outlander series, not kidding! My friends called him "James Fraser" when we first got together.)  He blessed me with 3 beautiful children.  I'm 37 years old, and as my husband says "ahead of the game".

But somehow, I still feel like I have yet to accomplish something.  So I've quit making excuses and I'm writing. 

I'm also losing weight.  I've been overweight since college and it just BALLOONED with each of my kids (and all those massive binge sessions - note to self, when you are bulimic and stop puking but keep binging - you will get grossly FAT!), so I'm taking charge of my health. 

Losing weight (I've still got 100 lbs to go and have already lost 95 lbs!) is very hard.  Writing is very hard.  Here is why...

1. I am inherently a procrastinator.
2. I am inherently an addict. (Oh the stories I can tell!)

So what do I do to overcome?

I force myself to write, and I force myself to say "NO" to unhealthy food.

I am not dieting, I do not believe that "dieting" works because it is not possible to diet forever.  I want to learn to make wiser choices with my food, but I'm still a busy human with 3 small humans so we go to fast food sometimes...I just order the salad and get the healthiest dressing they've got; not the double cheeseburger, chicken nuggets, fries, x-large soda AND salad.

As for the writing; well, when I'm tired from being up most of the night with the baby and I can't seem to think of anything worthwhile to say...I just blog about inane shit that no one cares about but me! ;)


  1. First off, Happy Birthday! Yay!!

    Second, good move with the no dieting thing. Making a lifestyle change is definitely more lasting. Glad you're having some success and encourage you forward to reach your weight loss goal.

  2. Happy birthday! :) You have a gorgeous family.

    I'm like you, I don't believe in dieting. It's a matter of having a healthy lifestyle. I'm trying to be a good role model for my son and eat better, but I have Oreos and chocolate hidden about. I need to stop that!

  3. I tried to comment once, but it looks like Blogger ate my comment...

    It's your birthday? Wow, I forgot...Just kidding.

    Happy birthday.

    Where was that picture taken?

  4. Happy Birthday to you and you go for it :-)

  5. Happy Birthday.
    May you continue to blog and inspire us all.

    The PostMan

  6. Happy Birthday Heather!

    Good on you for choosing a healthier lifestyle rather than dieting. A few years back I went on a diet through one of those famous programs and lost 10 kilos (22lbs). It didn't take long for the weight to come back, so I learnt the hard way that dieting doesn't work. Now, like you, I'm using my own tactics. Best of luck - you go girl! :)

  7. @Angela: Thank you so much for the encouragement! It truly means a lot. :)

    @Christine: Yes, when I think about my children following in my UN-healthy footsteps, I get a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach! It's for me...but it's for them too! :)

    @Liz: HAHAHA Like you would EVER forget anything! :) The picture was taken at Disneyland's California Adventure when we went for Chris's birthday.

    @Sarah: Thank you! I'll keep going...and going...and going! Just like the Energizer Bunny! :) It's a LONG road!

    @The PostMan: thank you!

    @Debbie: I, too, have done every diet imaginable (the somewhat "healthy" ones, and the absolutely crazy ones) but I've always gained any weight back PLUS MORE! Dieting isn't the way...healthy women don't diet, they eat healthy! ;)